I have spent the morning keeping busy, trying to locate things that I couldn't find at first, and remembering. In 1991, my dearest friend Perry Tilleraas was at home would the next day die from AIDS. The "Perry Helpers" had been doing round the clock help, assistance and vigil for many days, I am not sure what day it was that I was in the kitchen and Perry was sleeping he had not been out of his bed for awhile and we all knew including Perry that he was very close to passing over. He had been talking out loud to people on the other side, had scolded folks for praising the lord over his bedside and was being his most profound self to the very end. In the kitchen was a little cabinet style television, and I was sitting at the small table watching the Clarence Thomas confirmation hearing. Anita Hill was testifying, and I found myself crying in that kitchen. Crying for Perry's imminent death and my feelings of loss, crying for Anita Hi...